It’s funny I can look back at my 16 year old self and see some things that he obviously needed to hear — but I really don’t feel like I have everything figured out now at 28 years old.
So if you’re a 40 year old, and you have some glaring tips for me — please reach out and let me know.
I figured if there are other young men out there who are struggling with figuring things out, I should definitely share what I know I needed in my teens.
I feel like I need to preface this by saying that I’m by no means some sort of guru who has life figured out. But I really don’t think anybody does, so that’s exactly why I’m sharing this post.
These tips can be applied to almost any area of your life, so whether you’re focused on improving your health, career, or interpersonal results — these tips should help.
1. Be Accountable & Take Responsibility
When I was younger I had a tendency to always blame other people or circumstances for things that happened in my life. I think I still fall into this sometimes, but I’ve found that the more you accept that outcomes in your life are a result of your choices and actions, generally the happier you’ll be.
If you continue to think that you would have gotten a promotion, but your boss is a dick. Or you would have gotten in shape, but your partner makes you eat unhealthy. Or you wouldn’t have missed that opportunity, but someone else interfered. You’ll never be happy. With this mindset even if you do succeed, it will be at the hands of someone else.
About a year ago, I read Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink. Jocko is a Navy Seal who while serving made life-or-death decisions that lead to people getting killed. He explained that when military leaders came to him to ask what happened, he accepted that what had gone down was his fault. This book helped me understand that taking responsibility for your actions, even if they had a bad outcome — will help you win in the long term.